Verbal Violence by Parents

           Verbal violence is kind of violence which in form of spoken violence. The verbal violence include of shout at, insulted, snap at, refusing rudely, make a shy in public place, say rudely, and so on. People who do verbal violence maybe they are who born in a family who always do verbal violence or maybe people who like say rudely and can’t control their emotion.

          Some people rarely do verbal violence. Some people also assumed that verbal violence is commonplace. Even parents usually do verbal violence at their children. Parents also assumed that verbal violence is commonplace. So, they are repeat verbal violence to their children who do mistakes.

Verbal violence which they think are commonplace and be their habit. In other hand, angry to their children use verbal violence not really make children be better. Moreover, appear new problems, especially for children. These are some verbal violence which usually parent do it : children in wrong place, parents never give appreciation of everything was done, children always be the target of angry, parents always assumed that children always do parents’ order, parents say that the children nothing, foolish, stupid, and parents always compare their children to another.

First, children are always wrong. Parents usually accuse something to their children. This is make children bored, be emotional or not pay attention of their parents. When was child may children just shut up, but whn become adult may can feel bored and tired. They also may be say complaint rudely. Sometimes when children shut up when their parents angry not always mean that they aware of their mistakes, but may be because they afraid of their children.

Second, parents never give appreciation of everything was done by their children. For example : when children get bad mark, parents will angry and demand their children to get good mark. However, when children get good mark, they also demand to get perfect scores in all of the subjects. Parents should give support and good advice when their children get bad mark, and when their children get good marks , they should appreciate it. In order to the children feel appreciated and keep their spirit for try their best.

Third, children become target of angry. When parents get some problem which from jobs, financial etc. if they are can’t control their emotion, they will easily angry to their children because of just a little problem. Firstly children will shock or afraid, but more and more happen, they will assumed that is common things. So, they are easily to forget it.

Fourth, parents assumed that children have to do parents’ order. The parents never give change to their children for share their opinion. So, they have to parents order and when parents wrong and their children want to give their opinion, they not allow them. For example: when parents’ angry and say something for correct parents’ argument, they will say if their children begin impolite and become child who like refute. This is look simple, but actually this is effect in children’ life. For instance: they become unconfident and difficult to share argument in public.

Fifth, parents say to children if they are foolish, stupid, nothing or other bad things. The children which get that statement will sad. Not only sad, but also children live unconfidently in everything. Children also assumed that they are nothing and really stupid. However, when children unconfident, parents become angry and demand children become confident. They are not aware that what they do to their children are effect to children’ attitude.

Sixth, parents always compare their children to other children. Parents compare have a reason. In order to their children become like them. Actually, compare to other children is not best way to make your children better. Moreover, children become hate other children who always compare to them. Parents should not compare their children to other children. Everyone is unique. Everyone has different cleverness and skill. So, don’t compare and don’t demand your children to like as other children. Remember, what parents’ say to their children are prays and possible can be true. So, as parents have to careful when say something.

In conclusion, we conclude that child is human who has feeling and have change to argue or give opinion of something. When children get failure of something, parents have to give some advices. Meanwhile when children success, parents should appreciate children’s efforts.

Verbal violence looks commonplace but actually has bad effect in children. They are can become unconfident, afraid of parents. Moreover, they will be emotional like their parents. Verbal violence not make children change be better because their aware, in other hand they will change because afraid of their parents. So, it is possible children repeat same mistakes again.